how to accept that your boyfriend is unromantic

I don't know what makes me want to post this

but it is time for me to put on my own personal thoughts on my blog 

(it's been ages since i actually rant something here)

Let's face it, GIRLS are just being girls. If you're a girl you're probably love having those romantic moments occasionally.
okay , i wouldn't say that most girls would like their boys 24 hours sending them strings of love notes~

but let's face it, we love the thrill if they surprise us unexpectedly with flowers 

or love quotes that would melt butter within seconds~

okay, let's get back to topic

I wouldn't say my boyfriend is romantic. Maybe it's because of his horoscope or something

(Do you guys actually believe in this kinda thing?)

he's a Taurus , and like most Taurus they are more practical and stubborn

nope, not a hint of romantic personality in his blood

unlike me , i'm a Libra and yes, it's in my nature to crave for something romantic and i am a romantic person too. 

i used to pout and sulk when he walks across the road without holding my hand

"Dar, why won't you hold my hand? ) : "

sometimes i wish when i open my eyes early in the morning, i would receive a surprise text from him saying how much he feels for me or something. 

sometimes i wish that he suddenly stops and look at me and say something romantic

but then, well, i have to accept the fact that he is not that romantic~

(still i doubt that, because my cat friend who is a Taurus sounds quite romantic to his gf though~hmm)

How to accept the fact that your boyfriend is unromantic?

1. Look at his other good side

-right, he may be unromantic but he may have other good points too. Look at which personality of him that makes you happy. Is it his humorous way? his honesty? his gentleness? (that sounds a bit gay right?) 

When you're feeling envious about other people's boyfriend showering his love to his girlfriend in front of you, why not think of things that your boyfriend did that makes you happy other than being affectionate? 

well i think about how he always fetches me here and there, running a few of my errands just because i'm lazy, buying me food after food when i complain i'm hungry, carrying my bag, buying me gifts for important dates, and going where ever i wish to go !

i may sound a bit hypocrite here, but i use to compare my boy with other boys and told him that i want him to be this, i want him to be that, and lastly i'm the one getting the disappointment because let's face it, HE IS JUST NOT BORN WITH THAT. Then after a few minutes of silence, i get my head thinking of how he still willing to do lots of things for me despite how hard it is and that makes me forget everything that i hope he will have . 

2. Be romantic first

- Some people may differ, but if you're romantic first i think eventually your other half will response romantically back to you. i mean naturally if you ask him out for a candle light dinner and ask him to dress his best, surely he knows that this is something ought to be romantic about? You don't need to wait for anniversary or monthsary dates. A surprise date would put up the mood. Why let him plan first when you're hoping and hoping in silence over there? in return , surely he will think of something to liven up the mood right? (even if he's not romantic, he surely has a brain to know that this is something you are expecting in return)

- like in some cases, you may like to write something for him saying how much you appreciate him and how much you think of him. Let's face it, if you didn't write something out like that, will your unromantic boyfriend do something like that out of the blue? nope, but if you wrote something out to him, he will reply you back the same way. there is no denying that he will just sent a three letter words saying "thank you babe". 

If he's a good boyfriend, of course he'll sent you something worth your love notes ( : 

3.Open up to him, tell him what you want

-I don't know for some girls, but gah, when we're mad or sad at something we tend to remain silent. Whatever we are upset about , we tend not to tell it out (especially to that people who make us feel this way!) guys, just accept that we really have no feelings to talk about it until we get our head straight. so don't be mad at us!

-but after that don't bring this situation to your door: 

"What's the problem? why are you so upset about ?" boy asked

"nothing" girl replied

~End of story~ the boy do not know what is his problem or what the girl wants, and the girl will probably ended up sad again when he continues to upset her without realizing it. 

- i think honest confession of your feelings is quite important . i tell my boyfriend EVERYTHING. if i'm mad at the whole world, mad at a wall, mad at a cucumber, he be the first to know it. SO if i'm mad at him, i stay silent awhile (natural reaction, because if i reply him i probably burst out into tears (i'm such a water sprout)

and if i am hoping something, i just tell him. 

"Dar, can you be more romantic please ? " (i think i sounded harsh here but this is how straight forward i get to him, but he's understanding) 

if you open up to him, he understands what you want, he try to give it to you. 

but then again, personality wise, after a few tryouts , this thing tend to fade unless you keep reminding him to be romantic, that will just be like nagging, so it is , of course, bad news.  haha so good luck on that =.=

4. DON"T EXPECT TOO MUCH,  Just accept the fact that he is NEVER going to be THAT romantic

-Well it's in nature, and by nature, you don't change it's cause. If you try to change him, he turn out to be not HIMself at all, and it's unfair for him to live his life according to what you want and not what he wants. Even if he try to change for the better of the whole relationship, well, in the end his old habit die hard and eventually this whole thing will repeat  again and you be facing the same old unromantic boyfriend. so why change when he's going to be springing back and forth according to what you want?

~Still, if you're seeking for a romantic relationship, find some Libra horoscope guy~ haha

till then i still be crossing the road with this same old question to my boyfriend again

"Dar, why won't you hold my hand?"

Ps: I am not responsible of giving any professional advice, this is all my own opinions, so if you don't like whatever i'm saying here or some may not be agreeable to whatever your opinions are, don't display hatred towards me  but leave my blog platform please ( : 

xoxo

Ann